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Why did you choose not to join Mensa?

Last Updated: 16.06.2025 16:20

Why did you choose not to join Mensa?

I realize it might be unfair to judge the entire organization from a single meeting, but it was so, so bad.

Never in my entire life up to that point had I ever seen a collection of such smug, self-congratulatory wankers, because in 1984 veganism hadn’t emerged as an identity yet. That one meeting convinced me that this was a collection of mostly guys (there was only one woman) much more interested in eating cheese and fellating each other over how clever they are than doing anything interesting, so I never went back.

Back in high school, I qualified for MENSA on the basis of my SAT scores (690 math/750 English). I went to one meeting, and…

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?